Understanding yourself changes everything.

Life can sometimes take us so far away from ourselves that we no longer understand why we think, feel or react the way we do.

We find ourselves repeating painful patterns in relationships, reacting in ways we don’t understand, feeling overwhelmed by our emotions, or losing sight of who we really are – if we ever truly knew.

Perhaps we can remember a time when we felt excited and hopeful; when we felt free in our bodies, wanted to play, move and embrace life. As we grew older, some of those feelings may have had to be pushed down. We learnt not to express ourselves so openly, gradually adapting to the expectations and experiences around us. Over time, we became so disconnected from parts of ourselves that we no longer recognised who we had become. Life moved on, responsibilities grew, and there was little time to stop and reflect.

For over twenty years, I have helped people make sense of the emotional patterns that keep them feeling trapped. Together we explore how family dynamics, past experiences, generational trauma and long-held beliefs continue to influence the present.

My role is not to tell you who you are.

It is to help you see yourself more clearly.

I believe lasting change begins when we understand why we think, feel and react as we do. That understanding creates the freedom to make different choices, build healthier relationships and develop a stronger emotional foundation.

When we understand ourselves, we stop being in conflict with ourselves and with others.

That is where lasting change –and acceptance – begins.

Psychosynthesis and EFT

Psychosynthesis is a holistic approach to therapy that recognises both our psychological and our deeper human potential. Alongside this, I may use EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique), a gentle body-based approach that can help regulate the nervous system, reduce emotional intensity and support change when thoughts alone are not enough.

I offer counselling in London Bridge and online, creating a safe, confidential space where change can happen at a pace that feels right for you.

Words from People I’ve Worked With

Thank you for helping me and giving me this tool [EFT] that I can use with myself as well as in our sessions. The feeling of calm and oneness is again, such a relief.

K.C.

I started working with Cynthia following a divorce which had left me feeling very deeply hurt and struggling to heal the wounds that this created and the old wounds it had re-opened from my past. Cynthia’s approach was eclectic – picking the best methods to deal with each issue as we discovered it and needed healing – all encompassed in the structure of psychosynthesis.

Essentially I think of Cynthia as a wise woman, who with knowledge, experience and instinct helped me discover the root of the hurt, however far back in my past, and most importantly then find ways for it to truly heal. I have cleared the pain from my divorce plus phobias and fears held for over 30 years feeing me up to be a happy, healthy and hopefully wiser woman too. I would recommend

Cynthia to anyone who needs help to move forward in life, whatever the cause of the pain, she can help you find a way through the fog to a sunny day again.

S.R.

I help people who feel stuck in painful patterns,

whether from trauma, relationship struggles,

or long-standing depression to find a way back to themselves.

My sessions with Cynthia have been of great help to me. She is a very accepting and understanding counsellor and has helped me work through and understand a number of issues. EFT in particular has been very effective (despite my initial scepticism) in helping lessen the emotional heaviness of an problem – somehow it seems to lighten the charge the experience has and this has helped me move through whatever was causing the problem or upset. I would recommend it to anyone who is looking for a new approach to working through emotional blocks, fears etc. I have found it very helpful and effective.

T.S.

I received some sessions of EFT from Cynthia Rao as I was feeling very anxious. Cynthia was very professional and intuitive. She knew her stuff and guided me through the elements of EFT. I had previously suffered from headaches on a daily basis in which I need to take tablets for, after a session of EFT with Cynthia I found that my headaches had subsided and I have not taken any tablets since. With EFT I have found a way I can work with my feelings of anxiety and feel much more optimistic about the future. I want to thank Cynthia very much and I will certainly seek her counselling services again.

M.P.

It did take me a long time to find someone who I felt I could trust but when I did it made the world of difference. It gave me a sense of what I had missed with my own parents who were not able to give me the emotional support I needed. I discovered what boundaries meant and that I had them and so did others!! Counselling for me has been life changing!

B.D.